This is where I come to write about stuff. It is also where I answer questions people ask me at my speaking engagements, through social media or my clients ask during coaching sessions. I know if one person is asking there are others with the same question or who are struggling with the same issue.
Fight or flight is an automatic physiological reaction to an event that is or is perceived as a harmful event, attack, or threat to survival. However, often when in stressful, frightening situations even when we are feeling attacked, literally, or figuratively… our reaction is to freeze.
Do you keep a tally of how often life goes in your favor versus how often it seems you don’t get the desired outcome you were looking for? When we don’t get what we want we can ruminate over life not being fair and things not going our way.
Are you ready for a team-building program that actually provides tools for lasting change? We have all heard great speakers, gone on team-building events or retreats,
Or do you just maneuver through life not paying attention to what impacts you one way or another? Do you feel that you have no control over things anyway and life is just like living in a pinball machine?
Here are just a few comments I hear almost daily… here’s the kicker. Over 90% of you will relate to one or more of these comments. And 99% of you will do nothing about it.
Gaining the tools to shift your mindset so you are capable in handling life’s challenges in a positive way rather than allowing them to drag you down is what Mental Fitness is all about. It’s time to implement a Mental Fitness Program at your organization.
Let’s talk about mirror neurons. Ever wonder why you walk away from interacting with someone feeling better… or worse than you did before your interaction with them? Here is a quick and easy explanation.
When something hard or difficult or perceived as hard or difficult is presented in our life, whether it’s a decision we have to make, a conversation we need to have, or a task or project we’re expected to complete. What do we tend to do?
Assume. And some of my clients take assuming to a whole other level…
We have all been told, “No pain no gain.” And we have all chosen to accept this. Most of us are conditioned to believe that only things we struggled with or work hard for are of value. But “No pain no gain” is not true.
I was talking with a client who is going through my 8-week Mental Fitness Bootcamp and they asked me:
“What is wrong with being a people-pleaser, isn’t it good to help others?”
Yes, of course… But NOT at the expense of your own wants and needs.
You have two parts of your brain locked in a constant battle. Your Saboteur region vs. Your Sage region. Your Saboteurs are winning, it’s how
We tell ourselves, “I will be happy when…” Then, when we reach the desired goal and happiness isn’t standing there waiting for us so we can live happily ever after, we assume it was the wrong goal. Standing in our void of happiness, we shrug our shoulders and create a new happiness destination.
When people speak, they are just presenting their opinion or preference. When people are mean they are just revealing their insecurities. Or they are not being mean at all, I am filtering what they are saying to make it about me causing me to stand in victimhood. Everything isn’t about me. When people ask questions, they are being curious, they are not accusing me or passive-aggressively insulting me.
It takes confidence, self-assuredness, and respect for others to reply to a call or email, especially when it’s someone you know or have been communicating with. What happened to the simple act of telling someone “Thanks” when you receive the email containing something you discussed they’d send you?
I was following a car Saturday with a license plate that read: “SLIPN BY” I thought about how that probably means different things to different
New thoughts lead to, New choices that, Create new actions that, Introduce new experiences that, Generate new feelings and emotions that, Lead to more new thoughts that,
Alter your biology and Ultimately change your brain.
It’s said that “The brain thinks but the heart knows.” But for some, the brain is so loud and demanding that the messages from the heart become mere whispers. These messages that hold our best interest, our wants, needs and desires can go unheard.
Day after day I have conversations with people who are stuck. When they tell me their story of stuckness, they inevitably revolve around a perceived failure they cannot move on from… Let’s flip the script regarding failure and the power “fear of failure” can have over us.
I work with clients every day teaching them how to get out of their head and be more confident and more decisive. It’s amazing to
“I can’t do that so many people are already doing it.” Yes. But they have proven there’s a need. Go do it your way, be different. People need a variety to choose from. No one thing is a good fit for everyone.
1, 2, 3 Go! Just like when we were children. Push the fear aside and go for it. You know on the other side of
We are all worthy of having our wants, needs, and desires met and to go after the life we imagine for ourselves. The kicker is, you need to believe it.
So many micromanagers think they’re good leaders. Not everyone is meant to be a leader. There’s more than one way to do a job or complete a task and pretty much all of them are “the right way”. Are you a leader or micromanager?
Frustration, anger, bitterness, and disappointment, essentially all the negative emotions we experience, are actually gifts. Embrace them.
They are telling you one simple thing… You need to change something. You need to course correct.
As the clocks get ready to strike midnight on New Year’s Eve, many of us are reflecting on the past year and making resolutions for the shiny new one ahead of us. Why is it so difficult to stick to our resolutions?
Today I sat in the waiting room of a surgery center. My husband had shoulder replacement surgery this morning. Something in his body stopped working
We are so conditioned by society, our parents, our peers, and ourselves to believe we need to do certain things or be a certain way in order to be successful or in order to be seen as someone who contributes value.
Stop strengthening your weaknesses… Stop trying to force others to work from outside their strengths. It’s not productive and it’s not good leadership.
I’ve been having more and more conversations these days about assuming. Specifically, regarding people avoiding conversations that are in their best interest because they assume it
“You are only as strong as are weakest link” should never mean you need to lower your bar and match the level of the weakest person.
The lesson I learned that day was no matter what happens in our life, moving forward is the only way to ensure we don’t break the mechanisms.
Is asking open-ended questions always the best strategy? But did you know that well over 50% of the population find it difficult to answer open-ended questions? The number is probably closer to 70%.
Time heals nothing, so stop expecting the passage of time to heal what is hurting or haunting you. Let’s first look at the difference between
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