Whose Fault Is It?
Are you the type of person who takes responsibility when things go wrong, or are you the type who looks for others to blame?
This is where I come to write about stuff. It is also where I answer questions people ask me at my speaking engagements, through social media or my clients ask during coaching sessions. I know if one person is asking there are others with the same question or who are struggling with the same issue.
Benefits of Positive Intelligence
Let’s talk about Mental Fitness, especially since it is “Professional Wellness Month.” 83%* of workers in the United States report feeling work-related stress and 25% say their job is the number one stressor in their life.
Stop Assuming
How many decisions do you make based on assumptions?
Have you ever considered how often your assumptions are drawn from misreading a situation or misinterpreting what someone has said?
Attorneys and Positive Intelligence
Why I focus a large portion of my business on working with Attorneys…
A career in the legal profession lives at the top of the list of those filled with stress, overwhelm and burnout.
Add the belief you need to hide all that in order to always appear confident and strong.
Forgiveness, The Key To Letting Go
A frequent conversation in my weekly Positive Intelligence Bootcamp meetings revolves around practicing forgiveness. Especially when it comes to letting go of something that is hunting you from your past. The reason why forgiveness can be difficult is because the event still resides in your memories and will continue to resurface in your brain.
When You Freeze and The Alligator is Behind You
Fight or flight is an automatic physiological reaction to an event that is or is perceived as a harmful event, attack, or threat to survival. However, often when in stressful, frightening situations even when we are feeling attacked, literally, or figuratively… our reaction is to freeze.
Are You a Life Scorekeeper?
Do you keep a tally of how often life goes in your favor versus how often it seems you don’t get the desired outcome you were looking for? When we don’t get what we want we can ruminate over life not being fair and things not going our way.
Team-Building with Positive Intelligence
Are you ready for a team-building program that actually provides tools for lasting change? We have all heard great speakers, gone on team-building events or retreats,
Feeding Your Spirit or Sicking the Life Out of You?
Or do you just maneuver through life not paying attention to what impacts you one way or another? Do you feel that you have no control over things anyway and life is just like living in a pinball machine?
Give Up Negative Thinking
Here are just a few comments I hear almost daily… here’s the kicker. Over 90% of you will relate to one or more of these comments. And 99% of you will do nothing about it.
Stress and Productivity
Gaining the tools to shift your mindset so you are capable in handling life’s challenges in a positive way rather than allowing them to drag you down is what Mental Fitness is all about. It’s time to implement a Mental Fitness Program at your organization.
Let’s Talk About Mirror Neurons.
Let’s talk about mirror neurons. Ever wonder why you walk away from interacting with someone feeling better… or worse than you did before your interaction with them? Here is a quick and easy explanation.
The Dark Path of Assuming
When something hard or difficult or perceived as hard or difficult is presented in our life, whether it’s a decision we have to make, a conversation we need to have, or a task or project we’re expected to complete. What do we tend to do?
Assume. And some of my clients take assuming to a whole other level…
No Pain No Gain, The Lie We’ve Been Believing
We have all been told, “No pain no gain.” And we have all chosen to accept this. Most of us are conditioned to believe that only things we struggled with or work hard for are of value. But “No pain no gain” is not true.
What’s Wrong With Being A People-Pleaser?
I was talking with a client who is going through my 8-week Mental Fitness Bootcamp and they asked me:
“What is wrong with being a people-pleaser, isn’t it good to help others?”
Yes, of course… But NOT at the expense of your own wants and needs.
The Battle In Your Brain
You have two parts of your brain locked in a constant battle. Your Saboteur region vs. Your Sage region. Your Saboteurs are winning, it’s how
I Will Be Happy When…
We tell ourselves, “I will be happy when…” Then, when we reach the desired goal and happiness isn’t standing there waiting for us so we can live happily ever after, we assume it was the wrong goal. Standing in our void of happiness, we shrug our shoulders and create a new happiness destination.
Everything Isn’t About Me
When people speak, they are just presenting their opinion or preference. When people are mean they are just revealing their insecurities. Or they are not being mean at all, I am filtering what they are saying to make it about me causing me to stand in victimhood. Everything isn’t about me. When people ask questions, they are being curious, they are not accusing me or passive-aggressively insulting me.
Why is ghosting becoming the norm? Why is this acceptable?
It takes confidence, self-assuredness, and respect for others to reply to a call or email, especially when it’s someone you know or have been communicating with. What happened to the simple act of telling someone “Thanks” when you receive the email containing something you discussed they’d send you?
What’s Slipping By In Your Life?
I was following a car Saturday with a license plate that read: “SLIPN BY” I thought about how that probably means different things to different
Roadmap to Change
New thoughts lead to, New choices that, Create new actions that, Introduce new experiences that, Generate new feelings and emotions that, Lead to more new thoughts that,
Alter your biology and Ultimately change your brain.
The Brain Thinks But The Heart Knows
It’s said that “The brain thinks but the heart knows.” But for some, the brain is so loud and demanding that the messages from the heart become mere whispers. These messages that hold our best interest, our wants, needs and desires can go unheard.
Through Failure to Opportunity
Day after day I have conversations with people who are stuck. When they tell me their story of stuckness, they inevitably revolve around a perceived failure they cannot move on from… Let’s flip the script regarding failure and the power “fear of failure” can have over us.
Don’t Let You Be The One Holding You Back
I work with clients every day teaching them how to get out of their head and be more confident and more decisive. It’s amazing to
No Valid Excuses
“I can’t do that so many people are already doing it.” Yes. But they have proven there’s a need. Go do it your way, be different. People need a variety to choose from. No one thing is a good fit for everyone.
Stop Overthinking
1, 2, 3 Go! Just like when we were children. Push the fear aside and go for it. You know on the other side of
A Quick Word About Worthiness
We are all worthy of having our wants, needs, and desires met and to go after the life we imagine for ourselves. The kicker is, you need to believe it.
Leaders vs. Micromanagers
So many micromanagers think they’re good leaders. Not everyone is meant to be a leader. There’s more than one way to do a job or complete a task and pretty much all of them are “the right way”. Are you a leader or micromanager?
Embrace Our Negative Emotions & See Them As Gifts.
Frustration, anger, bitterness, and disappointment, essentially all the negative emotions we experience, are actually gifts. Embrace them.
They are telling you one simple thing… You need to change something. You need to course correct.
Why Is It So Difficult To Stick To Our New Year’s Resolutions?
As the clocks get ready to strike midnight on New Year’s Eve, many of us are reflecting on the past year and making resolutions for the shiny new one ahead of us. Why is it so difficult to stick to our resolutions?
When the Pain Outweighs the Fear…
Today I sat in the waiting room of a surgery center. My husband had shoulder replacement surgery this morning. Something in his body stopped working
Why You Need to Know Your Human Design
We are so conditioned by society, our parents, our peers, and ourselves to believe we need to do certain things or be a certain way in order to be successful or in order to be seen as someone who contributes value.
Stop Strengthening Your Weaknesses
Stop strengthening your weaknesses… Stop trying to force others to work from outside their strengths. It’s not productive and it’s not good leadership.
The Danger of Assuming
I’ve been having more and more conversations these days about assuming. Specifically, regarding people avoiding conversations that are in their best interest because they assume it
When your boss tells you to dumb it down…
“You are only as strong as are weakest link” should never mean you need to lower your bar and match the level of the weakest person.
Life lessons from my Uncle John and DST ending.
The lesson I learned that day was no matter what happens in our life, moving forward is the only way to ensure we don’t break the mechanisms.