This is where I come to write about stuff. It is also where I answer questions people ask me at my speaking engagements, through social media or my clients ask during coaching sessions. I know if one person is asking there are others with the same question or who are struggling with the same issue.
Why I focus a large portion of my business on working with Attorneys…
A career in the legal profession lives at the top of the list of those filled with stress, overwhelm and burnout.
Add the belief you need to hide all that in order to always appear confident and strong.
A frequent conversation in my weekly Positive Intelligence Bootcamp meetings revolves around practicing forgiveness. Especially when it comes to letting go of something that is hunting you from your past. The reason why forgiveness can be difficult is because the event still resides in your memories and will continue to resurface in your brain.
Fight or flight is an automatic physiological reaction to an event that is or is perceived as a harmful event, attack, or threat to survival. However, often when in stressful, frightening situations even when we are feeling attacked, literally, or figuratively… our reaction is to freeze.
Or do you just maneuver through life not paying attention to what impacts you one way or another? Do you feel that you have no control over things anyway and life is just like living in a pinball machine?
When something hard or difficult or perceived as hard or difficult is presented in our life, whether it’s a decision we have to make, a conversation we need to have, or a task or project we’re expected to complete. What do we tend to do?
Assume. And some of my clients take assuming to a whole other level…
We tell ourselves, “I will be happy when…” Then, when we reach the desired goal and happiness isn’t standing there waiting for us so we can live happily ever after, we assume it was the wrong goal. Standing in our void of happiness, we shrug our shoulders and create a new happiness destination.
When people speak, they are just presenting their opinion or preference. When people are mean they are just revealing their insecurities. Or they are not being mean at all, I am filtering what they are saying to make it about me causing me to stand in victimhood. Everything isn’t about me. When people ask questions, they are being curious, they are not accusing me or passive-aggressively insulting me.
It takes confidence, self-assuredness, and respect for others to reply to a call or email, especially when it’s someone you know or have been communicating with. What happened to the simple act of telling someone “Thanks” when you receive the email containing something you discussed they’d send you?
Day after day I have conversations with people who are stuck. When they tell me their story of stuckness, they inevitably revolve around a perceived failure they cannot move on from… Let’s flip the script regarding failure and the power “fear of failure” can have over us.
Frustration, anger, bitterness, and disappointment, essentially all the negative emotions we experience, are actually gifts. Embrace them.
They are telling you one simple thing… You need to change something. You need to course correct.
As the clocks get ready to strike midnight on New Year’s Eve, many of us are reflecting on the past year and making resolutions for the shiny new one ahead of us. Why is it so difficult to stick to our resolutions?