The Battle In Your Brain
You have two parts of your brain locked in a constant battle. Your Saboteur region vs. Your Sage region. Your Saboteurs are winning, it’s how
This is where I come to write about stuff. It is also where I answer questions people ask me at my speaking engagements, through social media or my clients ask during coaching sessions. I know if one person is asking there are others with the same question or who are struggling with the same issue.
I Will Be Happy When…
We tell ourselves, “I will be happy when…” Then, when we reach the desired goal and happiness isn’t standing there waiting for us so we can live happily ever after, we assume it was the wrong goal. Standing in our void of happiness, we shrug our shoulders and create a new happiness destination.
Everything Isn’t About Me
When people speak, they are just presenting their opinion or preference. When people are mean they are just revealing their insecurities. Or they are not being mean at all, I am filtering what they are saying to make it about me causing me to stand in victimhood. Everything isn’t about me. When people ask questions, they are being curious, they are not accusing me or passive-aggressively insulting me.
Why is ghosting becoming the norm? Why is this acceptable?
It takes confidence, self-assuredness, and respect for others to reply to a call or email, especially when it’s someone you know or have been communicating with. What happened to the simple act of telling someone “Thanks” when you receive the email containing something you discussed they’d send you?
What’s Slipping By In Your Life?
I was following a car Saturday with a license plate that read: “SLIPN BY” I thought about how that probably means different things to different
Roadmap to Change
New thoughts lead to, New choices that, Create new actions that, Introduce new experiences that, Generate new feelings and emotions that, Lead to more new thoughts that,
Alter your biology and Ultimately change your brain.
The Brain Thinks But The Heart Knows
It’s said that “The brain thinks but the heart knows.” But for some, the brain is so loud and demanding that the messages from the heart become mere whispers. These messages that hold our best interest, our wants, needs and desires can go unheard.
Through Failure to Opportunity
Day after day I have conversations with people who are stuck. When they tell me their story of stuckness, they inevitably revolve around a perceived failure they cannot move on from… Let’s flip the script regarding failure and the power “fear of failure” can have over us.
Don’t Let You Be The One Holding You Back
I work with clients every day teaching them how to get out of their head and be more confident and more decisive. It’s amazing to
No Valid Excuses
“I can’t do that so many people are already doing it.” Yes. But they have proven there’s a need. Go do it your way, be different. People need a variety to choose from. No one thing is a good fit for everyone.
Stop Overthinking
1, 2, 3 Go! Just like when we were children. Push the fear aside and go for it. You know on the other side of
A Quick Word About Worthiness
We are all worthy of having our wants, needs, and desires met and to go after the life we imagine for ourselves. The kicker is, you need to believe it.
Leaders vs. Micromanagers
So many micromanagers think they’re good leaders. Not everyone is meant to be a leader. There’s more than one way to do a job or complete a task and pretty much all of them are “the right way”. Are you a leader or micromanager?
Embrace Our Negative Emotions & See Them As Gifts.
Frustration, anger, bitterness, and disappointment, essentially all the negative emotions we experience, are actually gifts. Embrace them.
They are telling you one simple thing… You need to change something. You need to course correct.
Why Is It So Difficult To Stick To Our New Year’s Resolutions?
As the clocks get ready to strike midnight on New Year’s Eve, many of us are reflecting on the past year and making resolutions for the shiny new one ahead of us. Why is it so difficult to stick to our resolutions?
When the Pain Outweighs the Fear…
Today I sat in the waiting room of a surgery center. My husband had shoulder replacement surgery this morning. Something in his body stopped working
Why You Need to Know Your Human Design
We are so conditioned by society, our parents, our peers, and ourselves to believe we need to do certain things or be a certain way in order to be successful or in order to be seen as someone who contributes value.
Stop Strengthening Your Weaknesses
Stop strengthening your weaknesses… Stop trying to force others to work from outside their strengths. It’s not productive and it’s not good leadership.
The Danger of Assuming
I’ve been having more and more conversations these days about assuming. Specifically, regarding people avoiding conversations that are in their best interest because they assume it
When your boss tells you to dumb it down…
“You are only as strong as are weakest link” should never mean you need to lower your bar and match the level of the weakest person.
Life lessons from my Uncle John and DST ending.
The lesson I learned that day was no matter what happens in our life, moving forward is the only way to ensure we don’t break the mechanisms.
The Struggle with Open-Ended Questions
Is asking open-ended questions always the best strategy? But did you know that well over 50% of the population find it difficult to answer open-ended questions? The number is probably closer to 70%.
How do I stop being haunted by my past?
Time heals nothing, so stop expecting the passage of time to heal what is hurting or haunting you. Let’s first look at the difference between
Life Lessons In The Airport
A Traveler’s Tale “Why is it every time I travel, I end up at the furthest gate on the longest concourse in any airport I
The Ostrich Ride
Before we went to South Africa my brother heard there is a place where you can ride an ostrich. He already decided he was going
The Little Boy and the Cocoon
By Henry Miller A young boy walked up to his grandfather who was sitting and looking at something in his hand. “What is that?” the
The Only Way Out Is Through – for real
I was in Italy with my Dad and my sisters, and we had the opportunity to go into the Catacombs. Little did I know I
The Scorekeeper Always Wins
I want to address scorekeeping and why the scorekeeper always wins. I’m not talking about the mom or dad who volunteers to handle the scoreboard
The Beauty In Imperfection
I embrace the stories my scars, flaws, and imperfections tell. They are each a snapshot of a moment in my life. I wear them every
How do I get closure when I’m ghosted?
That is your closure. So often in life, we look for more answers, or a more in-depth explanation when all the information we need is
A Football Player’s Awakening To Vulnerability
I want to share a story of a football player’s awakening to vulnerability that I was blessed to be part of. This story unfolded about
Fight or Flight, What About When We Freeze?
Defining the phenomenon Fight or flight is defined as an automatic physiological reaction to an event that is perceived as stressful or frightening. The perception
Shortcuts & Rabbit Holes
The Struggle is Real I sit here day after day for months now, spending hours upon hours researching key components to help guide me on
Mountain Paths and Free Will
Straight Line Theory When you think about your life, do you think of it as a straight line of predetermined events, or would you prefer
Where Did I Lose Myself?
Conversation with a Client* “I woke up the other day, went into the bathroom, splashed water on my face, looked in the mirror, and wondered…
Defeating The Threshold Guardians
The Hero’s Journey During the hero’s journey of any story, a work of fiction, biography, or the story of our own lives, we encounter Threshold